Many of us have absorbed the belief that if we just meet the right person we will be happy.  We feel unsatisfied, restless and lonely unless we are actively seeking the person that will make us feel better, more whole.   Yes, being in a healthy and loving relationship provides many benefits - a greater sense of security, a feeling of connectedness and a way to express our love and gratitude - but our love relationships need to be the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.  

Sex addiction among gay men is real. Between the Internet, iPhone apps and crystal meth, our gay male community is overloaded with opportunities for a quick hook-up. This is not an indoctrination of casual sex among gay men - sexual liberation and exploration are important parts of any sexuality and coming-of-age experience - but a resource for those who believe they have crossed the line and are in a cycle of obsessions and compulsions, high-risk behaviors and ensuing shame and isolation.