Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron’s meditation on being “Thoroughly Processed: Comfortable with Uncertainty,” reminds us that we create our experiences by the thoughts we think and, subsequently, by how we choose to act or react. According to Chodron, “Our emotions have the power to run us around in circles.” If we can understand this, we can learn how we actually increase our own pain.
Breakups are challenging for both the people involved, whether or not the decision to separate is mutual. It is important to remember that the end of a relationship does not necessarily mean that there is something wrong with you personally; more often, something is wrong with the relationship.
Are you holding on to a grudge? Have you been angry with a friend or a loved one and you just can't seem to let it go? You may want to dig a little deeper and try to understand not only why you feel resentful, but also what your part in the situation might be. Sometimes we feel slighted -- anger is a normal and often valid feeling -- but how we react to our feelings is a choice.Studies show that people who forgive are happier and healthier than those who hold resentments. (Campaign for Forgiveness Research) (2006).
Yes, being in a healthy and loving relationship provides many benefits - a greater sense of security, a feeling of connectedness and a way to express our love and gratitude - but our love relationships need to be the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.
It seems an appropriate time to write about stress, especially in the face of a challenging and ever-shifting economy. Our stability as individuals, as a nation, and as a world is in constant flux. Assurance of a sound and steady life begins with us.
Take a look at your own life to see how you might be contributing to a sense of insecurity and what you might do to contribute to the change we all would like to see in the world.
Sex addiction among gay men is real. Between the Internet, iPhone apps and crystal meth, our gay male community is overloaded with opportunities for a quick hook-up.
This is not an indoctrination of casual sex among gay men - sexual liberation and exploration are important parts of any sexuality and coming-of-age experience - but a resource for those who believe they have crossed the line and are in a cycle of obsessions and compulsions, high-risk behaviors and ensuing shame and isolation.
There are three stages to coming out.
The first step is coming out to yourself; accepting your sexuality as a natural and integral part of your identity.
The second stage is coming out to others. Whether to family or friends or co-workers, it’s your responsibility to let them know what you want them to know about you.
The third stage is living openly, which involves coming out every day.